The context: A coworker thought it would be funny to play with a toy sword and *BONK* me on the head with it on Tuesday morning (playing around, not malicious. It wasn’t hard, but hard ENOUGH to trigger my head). Come Thursday, the spot still hurts something fierce, even worse than the initial hit. I see the company doctor. Yes, I reported the incident with the proper channels.
The doctor enters the room after I had finished my consultation with the RN beforehand, so he is aware of my situation. This is what happened:
Doctor: “So, I hear you have a headache.”
What I want to say: “No,Doc.I know headaches well. Intimately, in fact. I also know their cousin, Migraine, even better. This is not a headache. That’s like going to a doctor for kidney stones and having the doctor say, ‘So, I hear you have a stomachache.’”
What I really say: “I had a migraine, Sir, until it went away yesterday afternoon. Today, my skull hurts in the place where I was hit.”
I had to explain that a “headache was to your pulled quad as my pain was to your shin after running into the coffee table,” for my pain to be understood.
That’s how it always feels when a migraineur goes to a doctor who doesn’t specialize in headache disorders or migraine disease.
The Moral: Don’t make flippant quips to people in pain/are sick. It invalidates their situation and is extremely condescending. And it isn’t funny.
💖Hearts and Sparkles!💖